Psalms 103:6, The LORD executeth righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.
Abuse needs no excuse. Abusers need no reason to abuse. They abuse because they are abusers. They don’t think like normal people, they don’t react like normal people, they don’t respond like normal people. They think, react and respond like abusive people because that is what they are. Because of that, it doesn’t matter if their victim failed or didn’t fail, or what they might have failed in, they will abuse anyway. Abusers can be driven to abuse by anything or by nothing.
God is on the side of the oppressed. He cares about you, and He cares about your children. But that doesn’t mean that you must just submit and obey and leave everything in God’s hands. Many people in the Bible fled in order to protect themselves from violence. Even Jesus did (John 8: 59). If you are being abused you have a right to protect yourself. You have a right to leave. To get to safety. To tell your story. To get a restraining order, have him arrested, or even hide from him. You have a right to divorce. You have a right to do whatever it takes to protect yourself and your children.
If you are being abused, and you don’t know who to turn to, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Help is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. It’s free, and it’s confidential. If you cannot call someone, but can get away, go to your local police station or even to an emergency room. Someone there can help you.
God be with you.
Soli Deo gloria!