Tim Challies Review of Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife

Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife
by Ruth Tucker

Now here is a provocative title for a book: Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife. The subtitle brings a measure of explanation: “My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse.” Ruth Tucker’s new book is really two books in one—it is her harrowing account of being married to an abusive man and, at the same time, her critique of complementarian theology and an associated call for full egalitarianism. In my assessment it succeeds well as the first book but falls prey to significant flaws as the second.

Before I go any further, let me pause to define those key terms. “Complementarianism is the theological view that although men and women are created equal in their being and personhood, they are created to complement each other via different roles and responsibilities as manifested in marriage, family life, religious leadership, and elsewhere.” “Egalitarianism asserts that there should be no gender-based role distinctions or limitations placed on women in the home, church, or society. According to this view, women can serve as pastors in light of passages like Galatians 3:28.”1 With that in mind, here is my review of Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife.

In 1967 Ruth Tucker fell in love. She was at Word of Life Island in the heart of the Adirondacks when she met a tall, handsome young man who swept her off her feet. Romance blossomed and was followed by walks, talks, letters, and courtship. Even at this time she began to notice concerns, little warning signs that perhaps this man was too demanding and controlling. But in the blush of young love she overlooked his flaws and soon they were married. They settled into life together, she as an academic and he as a pastor. It did not take long before she was exposed to all manner of abuse—emotional, spiritual, physical, and sexual. For 19 years she endured this marriage before she finally escaped. They were later divorced. She tells this biographical account throughout the book, pausing often to draw lessons from it.

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4 thoughts on “Tim Challies Review of Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife

      1. You’re welcome. I just wanted to be sure you had both sides of the coin so that you could make a balanced decision. As I understand it, Tim Challies is notorious for his pre-existing bias


        1. I do appreciate it. Truth is very important to me and I’ve changed my opinion a number of times on significant things when presented with evidence that I couldn’t refute. I have studied Scripture from both sides of the spectrum and believe that God does call men to lead. It isn’t men leading that causes abuse; it is a corruption of that teaching. Men in headship positions in the church and in the home who lead with love and gentleness, as Christ leads the church, are a beautiful picture of manhood. Unfortunately the church goes too far one way and ends up with egalitarianism (which ends with women in leadership positions in the church) or too far right which ends up with patriarchal teachings–a corruption of God’s truth and something that can and does lead a man who is predisposed towards abuse into abuse. Thank you again. I always appreciate the ability to look at both sides of an issue. I did enjoy reading her response and the comments on her site as well as the other research it led me to. Soli Deo gloria!


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